Refusing a request is a delicate matter, and more so in Japan.

Western style research on how Japanese do refusals gives some insights—and disappointments.

Here are some online videos giving advice and modelling about spoken refusals.

Do you think these strategies and techniques are suitable for use with Japanese?
Do you think they are suitable for use with foreigners in Japan?

Youtube [Hunter searched youtube using ‘polite refusals’]

BBC Politely refusing something – 16 –
English at Work helps you make polite refusals

BBC English at Work series


BBC on avoiding ‘you’ and using the passive

BBC on saying no to invitations (social scenarios)

The American Way:

American: manners, a prior engagement, future plans

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